Hello everyone, so the holidays are over, it is back to work, back to school, back to reality. How is the new year, new you challenge going? This year are you wanting a new job? Maybe wanting to lose weight? Maybe you are looking for “the one” or maybe you have sworn of something that is really bad for you.
At the end of an old year and a start of a new one, it is human nature to reflect and make promises to ourselves that we are going to do things differently, but here is my question to you, it is now five days left of the very first month of this new year and what have you done to achieve any of your 2018 goals?
This is a scary question, but do not be alarmed because trust me when I tell you, you are not alone when it comes to this challenge. It is sadly human to procrastinate, because change is hard and scary but let me tell you a story that may make you see this new year, new you challenge in a different light.
A few years back I met a young lady, she was down and out, for the sake of this blog we will call her Belle. Belle was 18, and had lost her family in a freak accident, she had just finished school and was now working as a waitress in a corner cafe. She was so withdrawn and had a sweet soft smile which she rarely showed. Having walked into the cafe she came up to me to take my order, I remember thinking to myself what sad eyes she had, I could not resist the urge to ask; are you okay dear? She looked at me with a gentle smile and said; yes mam I am fine thank you, then she turned to walk away, but something held her back, she looked at me and said softly; I am sorry, it is just that today is a very sad day for me. My heart sank, I could feel her pain, I asked her to sit down with me and have a chat, she explained to me that it was exactly one year to the day that she had lost her entire family in a motor accident.
I bought her a cup of coffee and asked her manager if she could have the day off due to the circumstances, we chatted for hours that day. Belle was fascinating, she had such a powerful spirit however it seemed like this last year had really knocked her down. It was mid afternoon and time for us to part, she thanked me for the chat, and we walked our separate ways. I never forgot Belle but neither did I see her again, you see after that day she quit her job at that cafe.
Last December I met Belle again, I was sitting at that very same cafe when a strikingly beautiful women walked in, she was smartly dressed and the staff there seemed to know her well. At the time I did not recognize her, she was so different, she had this aura of radiant happiness. She must have recognized me immediately though, because she walked up to me and without an ounce of hesitation said; “Thank You”.
My heart skipped a beat, I smiled and asked her why, she proceeded to tell me who she was, I could not believe my eyes, she was so full of life and joy. She told me that after our conversation that day something I told her kept running through her mind; now extremely curious, I asked her what I has said to her, she paused for a moment as if to heighten the suspense and then said; ” Your past is painful, will your future be the same?”. She went on to tell me, that these words made her realized that she had to change her circumstance or her life would continue to be series of painful events. She began working at a technology company as a volunteer cleaner, the company allowed her to sleep on the property. She would work at different restaurants at night and on weekends, to make money which she used to study . For four years she slept in the place she worked at and studied, when she qualified much to the amazement of her boss who was unaware of her desire to study, she was offered an intern position to work at the company, however she declined. She was grateful for the opportunity but she was determined not to be tied down ever again. She continued working as a cleaner and set up her own part time business, she managed to pick up a few leads because of her job as a waitress, she freelanced and worked hard and eventually her company took off, today she runs one the the biggest technology companies in the city. At this point I was more than intrigued, I asked her about the cafe, “the staff know you well here hey”, I said. She then told me, she now owns that cafe, you see, “this was were my dreams begin, were it not for this place, I would never have turned my dreams into my reality, this little cafe reminds me everyday of the answer to your question, “pain may have been my past, yes, but it will not be my future!”.
This brings me back to 2018 goals, yes it will be difficult, yes you will fall of the wagon maybe even more than once, it may take twice as long as you expected, or you may get it right at the very start, you will only know once you get started. Do not sabotage your future out of fear of your past.
Remember, “procrastination is the thief of your dreams”.
2018, a year of conquerors !!!